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The Power of Positive Thoughts

Neil — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 13:26:08 +0000

A positive frame of mind is important for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to enhance performance in productivity and quality. We tend to think more creatively and perform better when we are feeling positive and well. When you are on top form, your confidence levels will go through the roof and this can only help you in your work and personal life. If you can sustain yourself with regular challenges and honest self appraisal, the benefits are enormous.

Fear induces us to put the brakes on; to stop thinking in a productive way. Fear of poverty, of losing face, of being proved wrong hold us back from taking part in active decision making. As our judgement becomes clouded with negative thinking, we become timid in the face of adversity. Opportunity becomes redefined as an impossible challenge and we end up standing still whilst the rest of the world passes us by. Negative emotions are emotions such as anger, fear, anxiety, jealousy, regret and sadness. These emotions are capable of not only having a powerful, unwanted effect on you physically, but also of having a significant impact on the way you conduct your life. Negative emotions can engrain habits of limiting decision making.

One of the benefits of personal development is that it can encourage all the healthy parts of you to grow and the less savoury parts to whither on the vine. It can improve our general well being and make us more harmonious inside. All of our emotional processes, attitudes, values, our beliefs and motivations are interconnected.

If life was easy then we would have nothing to be motivated for. That is why by bringing in other challenges and goals – be it learning another language or taking up a new creative hobby – you can develop a highly disciplined mind that will assist you in many other areas of life. Maintaining confidence and motivation is the secret to long term success. However, long term success is achieved from short term goals! What this means is that through setting smaller goals and you can reward yourself for achieving them on a regular basis.

Thinking well is being well. There are only a minority of people who achieve success without having any belief in themself or in what they are doing. Be proud of the positive steps you have decided to take in asserting control over your life

Think well of yourself. Change negative self-talk to positive self-encouragement. Give yourself the same consideration you would give a cherished friend. Learn to become your own cheer leader instead of your own worst critic. Once you have banished these negative thoughts, you should turn your attention towards coming up with an action plan. This plan will form the bedrock of your positive state of mind. You can take this even further by putting reward days into the planner to act as an extra bit of motivation. By breaking your routine down into a series of short term goals you will have more fun and experience a greater sense of accomplishment along the way. Of course this will only work if you are honest and open with yourself. Your journal should never lie, otherwise you are only telling lies to yourself and defeating the object of your goal.

Your plan should be customised according to your own personal set of requirements and informed judgement. The effects of this are that you will be proving to yourself that you can take control of your own destiny. With a clear structure in place, you will never lose focus of the task in hand. This will help to avoid the feelings of helplessness and submissiveness that can happen to people who feel like they are not in control of a situation.

More self help information can be found here.

How To Understand Confidence

Neil — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:08:17 +0000

Confidence is a word that we hear a lot of these days. Success in work and in our personal lives is said to stem from it. Indeed there are very few situations in life where a lack of confidence is considered to be an advantage. It is through confidence that we manage to assert ourselves in the world. You might find it strange then to know that such a crucial part of our personalities has had very little research made into it. If you stop and think about it a second – if we are to develop an understanding about what makes us tick then knowing about the things that affect our confidence is pretty important.

The world you live in is obviously going to be a major contributor to your level of confidence. Of course in our modern fast paced world there are many factors involved in our confidence levels. Anyone who tells you that they are ‘their own person’ is not being strictly true. The truth is that we react to the world around us according to the belief we have in ourselves. This self belief comes through the gaining of knowledge.

Think of your first day in a new job for instance. To begin with you were likely to be hesitant , unsure , looking for confirmation from others that you are doing the right thing. Fast forward 6 months later and think of the difference in outlook and attitude. You have grown into the role, you are more assertive because you have gained the necessary knowledge to complete your tasks according to a set standard. In short, you have become more confident because you believe in your ability to get the job done. Now you might think confidence gained in one area of your life can not be applied to all areas. This is a common misconception because it fails to grasp the principle of gaining confidence.

Lets think about where confidence comes from. Like most of our personality, confidence seems to stem from our biological make up and our experiences in childhood. In the same way some kids seem to be born to be top golfers or footballers . Others are naturally pre-disposed to being confident out going people. Yet there are also many many things that impact on us as kids when we grow up.

Parents can be a major contributor towards us acquiring confidence. Good parenting should be about teaching their child how to explore their own individual potential. Unfortunately , some parents do quite the opposite - perhaps with the same good intentions but often with disastrous consequences for the child’s future development . For instance, rather than examining their childs potential they instead seize upon their limitations. By directly focusing on these negative aspects to the extent that they over shadow everything else the child can grow up with little self belief and confidence. Another key contributor to our personalities and levels of confidence is our experiences in school. So many people who have an unhappy childhood do so due to their experiences in the play ground and the classroom. Being accepted by our peers can make or break our confidence levels.

Then of course there is the role of the mass media and advertising. However, in this case we are dealing with something a little different to what we have discussed before. Let’s face it we as a society are addicted to buying stuff it is in our nature. Yet why do we buy? More often than not it is to make up for shortcomings we feel we have in our selves. For decades, marketing folk have been aware of the power of placing a brand with the idea that it will instil confidence. The fact is that this is not selling confidence but exploiting a lack of it. A distinction we should all remember the next time we are out shopping!

These are just some of the ways confidence and our ideas of confidence are formed. If you are not a very confident person then perhaps you have seen some things in common between your own upbringing and some of the examples we have looked at. Examining the how and the why you are not confident will put you on the first step you need to take in order begin tackling it rather than just accepting it as ‘part of who you are’ . After all you cannot see where you are going in a dark room unless you put the light on first!.

For more information and a free video about positive thinking and controlling negative thoughts click here.

We Reveal The Simple System ANYONE Can Use To Completely DESTROY The Worry Of What People Think Of Them And Develop Social Freedom Overnight

Neil — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 14:36:00 +0000

Breakthrough mind technology will help you destroy the worry of what people think of you and lets you start living life your way rather than being a shyand meek who is too busy trying to impress everyone to be able to enjoy every day

Have you ever screwed up an important situation because you were worried about humiliating yourself in front of other people?Be honest with me here.I want to know……have you ever been walking through the street or a crowded bar and told yourself “don’t do anything stupid like trip up now” and felt yourself worry about what could go wrong in public…?…have you ever said something in the company of other people and whilst they didn’t take the Mickey out of you for it you immediately felt yourself go red with embarrassment?

…have you ever avoided parties because you were worried you might not impress people there enough?

…have you ever tried using alcohol as “Dutch courage” to make yourself feel more confident when you are surrounded by other people?

…have you ever been kept yourself quiet for fear of saying something that might sound stupid?

…have you ever heard avoided arguing with someone because you were scared they might have a go at you?

Have you ever had anything like that happen to you? You have right? And I bet you blamed it on the situation, rather than yourself, for you feeling uncomfortable. Am I right?

If any of the above sounds familiar you are stuck in a social illusion that is turning you into a loser

The truth is the only reason this may hurt a little is because you know it’s true. You know that in every day life you are too concerned with what other people think of you and it’s holding you back.

The good news is it doesn’t need to hold you back. At all.

The time has come for you to change your life for the better. Forever. So I ask one thing of you. Take a few minutes to read this and you will never be the same again.

This is the story of how I went from being petrified what people thought of me to being socially bulletproof…and how you can do the same

In this short letter I want to tell you the fascinating story of how I went from being a social pansy, consistently trying to make others happy and impress them, to developing a “thick skin” that makes me bulletproof in social situations.

These days no one can faze me. These days I’m in control of the way I feel, no one else. And it makes life so much easier now I don’t have to rely on what other people are thinking in order to feel good about myself.

But it wasn’t always this way. In fact I used to be in a dark, dark place…

At the age of 19 I was too scared to even go into a bank in case I made a fool out of myself in public

In order for me to explain to you how exactly how I am going to help you I need to explain why I am the best person for the job. I need to show you that I understand where you are coming from and that I too used to worry about what people thought of me.

I had my first ever panic attack aged just seven years old. That’s right, seven. I didn’t know what the hell was going on but I felt my chest get tight and I found it hard to breathe. I can remember this day so vividly even now almost twenty years later.

My panic attack stemmed from the fact that I had embarrassed myself in class and thought that everyone was laughing at me and thought I was a stupid chump. I remember vowing that day, aged just seven, that I would never humiliate myself in public again.

Throughout the rest of school I sat quiet in class never answering any questions or putting myself “out there” so that people could judge me. I figured if people didn’t even know I was there they wouldn’t be able to laugh at me.

I always thought that this feeling of dread in public would disappear with age. Until one day, aged 19, I realized it never would.

I had to pay a postal order into the bank in order to be able to withdraw money and get cash out to pay for dinner. However when I got to the banks front doors I saw a queue of people there. And a voice in my head started going nuts…

“Wow that’s a lot of people…what happens if you trip up as you walk in…what happens if your voice goes high when you get to the counter…what happens if a stranger asks you a question and you can’t think of anything witty to say…”

For ten whole minutes I tried to psyche myself up and walk into the bank. But unfortunately the voice in my head overpowered me and I went hungry that night in my college dorm. It was then, when I realized that my fear of what people thought of me stopped me from being able to eat, that I knew this horrible feeling wasn’t going to go away with age.

The only way I was not worried what other people thought of me was when I was drunk. Which meant I spent four years tanked up on tequila

When I realized that this worry was not going to go away I thought to myself I was stuck with the feeling for the rest of my life. That wasn’t a nice thought I can tell you.

As a student at university I was getting asked to go out and party quite a bit. I didn’t want to be a complete social leper so I agreed to go along. But I felt so awkward in bars, or any public situation for that matter. I felt as though people were constantly judging me and waiting for me to do something stupid.

In order to bypass this and give myself an instant confidence boost I would neck three shots of tequila as soon as I got into a bar. This numbed my senses and within ten minutes I was slightly tipsy and no longer worried about what people thought of me.

Being drunk whenever I saw my friends meant they thought I was an outgoing, social rock star willing to talk to anyone and always the life and soul of the party. And I was. But it was a façade. Away from them, and with only my thoughts as company, I felt anxious consistently in public situations.

This led me to my next realization.

I knew it was not a long term fix

I was using alcohol to feel more confident in public. And I was using it a lot. Don’t get me wrong I wasn’t an alcoholic. But any situations where I had to be sober in public I tended to avoid them. When I was wasted I could handle anything. When I was sober I was consistently trying to make sure I never did anything stupid so people couldn’t laugh at me or think bad of me.

The thing is I knew that tequila was just a crutch. Rather than helping me be more confident it was holding me back. It was a short term fix for my confidence problems and it made me feel worse for it. But I had got myself into a situation now where I felt that it was alcohol that made me confident and that without it I’d never be strong.

Just as I was bout to give up hope something crazy happened…

Then one day my reality changed. Forever!

I was at McDonalds with a friend. We were standing in the queue waiting to get served when my friend nudged me and said “Hotties, 2 o clock”. I looked to my left and sure enough there were two beautiful girls about our age.

As soon as I saw them I felt myself get anxious. I didn’t want to give them any ammo so they could laugh at me or think I was a fool. So I told my friend to stop being a pervert and stop looking at them. But he didn’t. He looked over, smiled and winked at one of the young ladies. She laughed and started whispering to her friend.

I felt myself go bright red and I was seething with anger. I had made sure I didn’t do anything stupid and this chump had done and made us both look fools. Now the girls were turning around and laughing at us and I wanted a hole to open up in the middle of the ground for me to fall into. The words “dying of embarrassment” had never been more apt.

Just as I was about to turn and run out of the restaurant something crazy happened. The girls called us over.

We had both seen the exact same thing happen…but in an entirely different way…

We sat with girls for a few minutes and my friend was chatting to them. I just sat there with an embarrassed look on my face. A little while later the two girls got up and just as they were about to leave one of them gave her number, and the other one said “Bring your quiet friend when you come to meet us. He’s cute”. They giggled and walked off, and I went bright red.

I was flush with excitement and my heart was pounding. What the hell had just happened?

You see at the same time as I had “seen” the two girls laughing at us two chumps and making fun of us my friend had “seen” the two of them flirtatiously giggling. We got our food, ate and went back to our room.

Whilst my friend probably didn’t think anything of the incident, it was an everyday occurrence for him, I had just seen something that would change my life. Forever.

That one moment led me on a crazy journey to figure out what the hell it was I had “seen” that day.

For days after the incident in McDonalds I ran what had happened over and over and over again in my head. How was it that my friend had seen one thing, and I had seen another, yet we were both looking at the exact same thing?

I’m sure that this has happened to you in the past. When you are speaking to someone about a past event and you both have a different perception on what really went on.

It was four days after what had happened that it hit me. And when it did hit me I was flawed. I was excited as to what I had found out and, just to make sure I wasn’t onto a losing situation, I decided to go out into the “field” and experiment with my newfound knowledge.

I spent months going into restaurants, bars, coffee shops, shopping malls…to try and figure out why some people seemed to constantly worry about what others thought whilst others…well…didn’t care.

This new found realization immediately gave me more confidence. It was like I had discovered a hidden social truth and that because I knew it I held some kind of power over those that didn’t, which was pretty much everyone else I encountered.

So in order to investigate what I had discovered I went into bars, coffee shops, restaurants, shopping malls…anywhere where there were people interacting with each other, and I started to study people. Big time. I watched their movements, their conversations and the ways they reacted to one another.

And as I did what I thought I had stumbled upon proved correct. The more I saw it “live” happening before me the more excited I got. I knew, I just knew that I had discovered something that would change my life and the life of all that found out about it very quickly.

What I discovered was a social illusion that was holding myself and anyone else back who worried about what others thought of them.

So what did I see? What was it I had found out? Well it was something that happens every single day, but no one really notices it. It happens to YOU every day but up until now you were either not aware of it or you were “seeing” it in a different way.

I call it The Social Illusion.

The Social Illusion is a simple concept to get your head around. It is the concept that every single person see’s the world with different eyes. This is a fact that no one can dispute.

Bear with me here.

When people see the world their mind then filters what it is they are seeing and makes a decision on it. In other words it is your MIND that controls you NOT the environment.

You may be thinking that you knew that already. But you’re wrong.

All of a sudden I was the one in control – NOT everyone else

When I realized that it was I who chose how to filter the world and what I see my entire life changed upside down. I chose the way I felt in situations rather than the environment dictating how I felt.

Once I saw the social illusion for what it really was very soon I started to go out more and “expose” myself to situations which used to make me feel very anxious. I started to go into bars sober and speak to complete strangers. I’d make friendly banter with people in shops. I even started to teach thousands of people at a time about marketing.

Upon doing this I began to develop a series of techniques and strategies that can turn ANYONE from being meek, shy and worried about what people think of them into a social powerhouse. Someone that everyone respects and wants to be like.

I call them my Secret Social Weapons.

This isn’t some lame self help program. This is how to be the social player everyone wishes they could be. I’ve read a lot of self help and personal development books and I find the majority of them to be too cheesy.

This is nothing of the sort.

In fact I don’t even call this self help or personal development. I call this learning “Social Game”. This is learning how to be a Social Player that people love to be around and that everyone wants to be like.

Let me prove this to you. Which of the following people would you like to be:

1) A shy, meek, unconfident person with low self esteem who doesn’t really enjoy life. Someone who is consistently anxious about trying to impress people and who is always worried if they’re doing the right or wrong thing by other people.

2) Someone who can walk into a room and people immediately know they’re there. They have a strong, confident presence about them that makes people take note. They’re not trying to impress anybody but they do anyway. Instead people are trying to impress them.

Tell me. What is “cooler” in this day and age? Person one or person two? Which one would you prefer to be like? Unless you’re nuts it’s number two right?

In that case this program is for you.

I’ll help you see the social illusion for what it really is

Over the past year I have devoted my entire time to creating the worlds first product on Social Game Mastery. It will enable anyone, and I do mean anyone, to see the world how it truly is and allow them to break free from the illusion that has been holding them back.

You see every person I speak to about this book reacts in the same way. At first they say to themselves “I don’t care what people think of me”. But then I challenge them to do something outside of their comfort zone, like approach a stranger, and they freeze up.

Why is this? It’s because no matter what they like to think they are stuck in a social illusion where OTHER PEOPLE and OUTSIDE EVENTS control them. Not the other way round.

Over the past year I have dedicated myself to creating a complete program that will help you to destroy this illusion virtually overnight. This means that very quickly you will be able to be in social situations like bars, work, or even just walking down the street without other people controlling the way YOU feel about yourself.

That sounds pretty good right? I haven’t stopped there…

Once you are no longer under the illusion that other people control your feelings I show you how to DOMINATE situations anywhere you go with a set of Secret Social Weapons

I’ll be honest with you here. Revealing the social illusion to you is just a small piece of the pie. In truth the past year of me researching this has been the hardest of my life. It’s all well and good seeing things as they really are but you still need to get “out there” so to speak in social situations. And if that scares you then you’ll just feel crappy and hate yourself even more when you screw up.

And that’s why I created the Secret Social Weapons system. With this manual in your armory nothing and no one can phase you.

How much will it cost to finally DESTROY the worry of what other people think of you?

I have spent the past year studying people, getting out of my comfort zone and pushing social boundaries in order to develop a set of social “weapons” that anyone can use to increase confidence, destroy the worry of what people think of them and start enjoying life to the full.

Let’s face it. Being self conscious every day is not a nice feeling. So I want to ask you something. If I said to you that 100% you no longer needed to feel that way, but you had to pay for a magic pill to take overnight that would stop it, how much would you be willing to part with?

Tens of thousands?

Thousands?

Hundreds?

I’m pretty sure you’d be willing to pay whatever you needed to to get your hands on it right? Because let’s face it, living a worry free lifestyle of social confidence is pretty much priceless.

However thankfully for you I have been where you are now too. I know what it is like to feel down and anxious in public. And that’s why you won’t have to pay anywhere near that amount for my brand new training system.

I know. I could charge hundreds or even thousands for this information. But here’s the thing…

I own a number of successful online businesses these days. I have gone from being to shy to say boo to a goose to dealing with multi millionaire entrepreneurs on a daily basis and doing deals worth a lot of cash. I have done this thanks to the fact nothing and no one can phase me any more. Millionaires might have social status in your book and be intimidating, but to me they’re just normal people.

Because of my success with my online businesses I don’t need to charge a lot of money for this. I could do, and probably should do, but I genuinely want to help people.

That’s why I will let you have my complete Secret Social Weapons system for a one time payment of $39.95. You will gain access virtually straight away via an online download of the manual and you will be reading in minutes exactly how to change your life. Forever.

You may ask yourself why I don’t give the entire course away for free if I don’t need the money? The answer is simple. I had to get out of my comfort zone a lot of times in order to develop the SSW system. And I feel that the low price justifies me charging for it for that heartache.

” A Word Of Caution…”

The techniques used within this course are so covert that they should be deemed illegal.

Why?

These techniques will grant you the ultimate sense of confidence, that you will be able to practically talk your way through any given situation and seize every opportunity for success.

Sounds too good to be true?

If you are aware of the content found within this course then you will know that it isn’t.

In fact…

Don’t take my word for it. Use The Secret Social Weapons Program for EIGHT FULL WEEKS and if you don’t break free from the social worry you PAY NOTHING

I know as well as anyone else on the planet that when you are full of worry of what people think of you, lack confidence and feel anxious in public there doesn’t seem to be light at the end of the tunnel. I fully appreciate that a program such as this, which caters for exactly what you want, seems too good to be true.

On the other hand I also know that this works. For anyone.

Because of this I will happily let you download the program and try it out for a full eight weeks risk free. If at anytime within this period you don’t feel it’s for you simply shoot me an email and I’ll provide you with a full and no questions asked refund.

Now the truth is your life will change for the better the first day you read the program. But I am that confident you will see dramatic and complete change over the next few weeks I’ll give you a full sixty days to make 100% sure it’s right for you. If you don’t like it I’ll give you your money back AND let you keep the program.

Do you think I would do that unless I was completely certain I could change your life? Not likely. This works as you will find out.

Your life is at a crossroads. Take the wrong turn and you’ll NEVER change and always be a social loser. Take the right one and you’ll be the social player everyone loves to be around

You now have two options. This decision can change your life forever, or keep you on track for what you are experiencing now.

So let me ask you a simple question. Are you happy to continue as you are, worrying about what people think of you and letting them dictate your life, or do YOU want to be in control?

If you are happy as you are leave this web page without signing up to the program. I assure you though you will not lead a life as happy as if you were a social player.

On the other hand if you are brave enough to be able to realize you need a little help, risk free I might add, to get to the next level in social game then simply click the order link at the bottom of the page and you can start on your new journey right away.

They say insanity is doing the same thing every day and expecting different results. I agree. If you DON’T take action and sign up don’t expect your life to get any easier. If you do you can achieve what you’ve always wanted. Freedom from the worry of what people think of you.

To see a free video and to find out about the Secret Social Weapon click here to visit the website.

How to break free from shyness

Neil — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:18:08 +0000

We have all heard of the phrase ‘to stand out from the crowd’ . If you are looking to land that job you have been after or impress some one on a date then it is quite useful to be able to ‘stand out from the crowd’. If you have ever found yourself overlooked for opportunities when other less experienced or less qualified people manage to push in front of you then the chances are you were just not getting yourself noticed enough. Why ? The reason could be because you have been too timid or shy about it.

Some people say shyness is the natural enemy of confidence and with good reason. Now don’t get me wrong a little shyness or coyness in the form of modesty is an attractive attribute to a lot of people but we are not talking about that. What we are discussing here is the type of shyness that prevents you from speaking clearly to people – the sort of shyness that prohibits you from being outward to people you don’t know. In short the type of confidence that can prevent you from achieving your full potential.

There is a common perception among many shy people that they are ‘the way they are’ due to genetic or other biological reasons. Now we are not here to have a biology lesson but let me assure you of this fact – there is not a single shy person who can’t get rid of their inhibitions should they choose too no matter what their biological make up. This is because, as human beings, we have the ability to make ourselves be what ever we want. What is important is to have the will to change and, just as importantly , the ability to stop labelling yourself as a naturally shy person. Labelling is one of the main ways we affirm an identity to ourselves. This can be expressed outwardly, for instance in the clothes we wear and the music we listen too; or inwardly in the way we affirm emotions and thoughts to our identity. The more we affirm something the more we take it to be true and unshakeable. We fall in to the trap of acting in a certain way simply by falling into the trap of thinking we are that way inclined.

The power of the mind can be a double edged sword. If we can affirm a shy identity to ourselves then it naturally follows that we can also attach a more outward extroverted persona as well. One of the best ways to do this is by wiping the mental slate clean. Appreciate yourself as a fluid being not something set in stone. Avoid directly thinking about your shyness as an individual and instead begin thinking about the situations in life you would like to find yourself being more confident in. This could be a dinner party or even a visit to the supermarket. Basically begin imagining how you would like to be perceived by others and yourself.

One of the most common ways people attempt to overcome shyness is through alcohol. If you enjoy a drink you will know that one of the most enjoyable (and occasionally embarrassing) aspects of a drink is that you lose previously held inhibitions. You might find yourself saying or doing things that you would not consider doing in a million years. Many shy people turn to drink as away to conquer their inhibitions. The problem is that this can lead to a dependency on drink that becomes unsustainable in day-to-day living. You can’t rightly go for a job interview after a few whiskeys now can you! This type of reliance can lead to people making excuses for their shyness – “ I can only talk to people i don’t know when I have had a drink’” is a commonly heard expression from people who label themselves as shy. Your transformation from shy introvert to outgoing extrovert needs to be as organic as possible.

One of the reasons that alcohol is used by so many shy people is because it makes strangers seem less frightening. Drink emboldens us within ourselves , and this is the key point here. To develop a knack of meeting new people you must start to look at other people differently. One of the simplest ways to start doing this is through imagination. In the same way we discussed using your mind to transform your own beliefs about your own identify. So should you think about how other people deserve the same blank slate treatment. In other words – approach other people with an open mind. After all, what have you got to lose?

For more help, information and a free video about thinking positively and controlling negative thoughts take a look here.

How To Get Into A Positive Frame Of Mind

Neil — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 14:09:56 +0000

Life is not all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of being. Encountering difficulty is not a bad thing –what matters is the way we deal with it. A positive frame of mind is important for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to enhance performance in productivity and quality. We tend to think more actively and perform better when we are feeling positive and well.

There are biological explanations of this. A positive frame of mind is due to enhanced levels of neurotransmitters like serotonin that regulate the performance capabilities of the brain. The knock-on effects of a positive frame of mind also include better health – not just better mental health but better in the physical sense. This is because of the boost to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you from positive hormones .
The reverse is also true, when we are depressed we are far more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our relationships with others deteriorate, we begin to think irrationally and our productivity can ground to a direct halt. In short this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs.

Feeling unhappy from time to time is not unusual – but how we choose to deal with a problem comes from our default state of mind. A positive mental attitude is also about giving yourself a can-do attitude. People who think positively are far more likely to see challenges rather than problems or opportunities rather than difficulties. For instance, entrepreneurs who are successful often are because they are able to spot opportunities for growth in a market in which others only see problems. The positive mental attitude of successful businessmen means that opportunity becomes a reality ; because they also have the drive and motivation to succeed and make their dream come true .

So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The problem for a lot of people is in developing one in the first place.
It is true that some people seem to be more positive than others. Having a so called ‘ sunny disposition’ implies that there is something inherent or genetic to account for a frame of mind. While this may be true in some cases it is also true that a positive frame of mind is not an attribute exclusively for a privileged few. It is something that is available to anybody. Anyone, that is, who is prepared to put the necessary work in to attain it.

Developing a positive frame of mind is not some new aged fad. For centuries, religious men and scholars alike searched for and developed techniques to harness an inner harmony. While this may have begun to make one closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant today. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only lead us in to ways of being that are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.

One of the best ways to determine your frame of mind is to think about how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you outgoing and open to meeting and talking with others? Or are you insular and afraid. Believe it or not one of the best ways to overcome a negative frame of mind is to change your attitude to the world around you and that means the people in it as well. If you are usually uncomfortable around others then try this experiment. One night force yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not be concerned about how you look or appear – or what you talk about. A reference about the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.

You see, the way you are with others will affect the opportunities you get offered. Think about it in this way – who is the most likely to get the furthest in a workplace between two people of equal ability and experience except for one difference – one is uptight and ill at ease with others around them, the other easy going and comfortable in the company of others. If I was the boss of those two people I know which one I would pick for a promotion.

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